Alonzo McMullen

If I could point out one thing about relationships that confuses the hell out of me, I would have to say it’s the women.

I mean, at one time I believed that if you take them out to nice restaurants and to the movies and buy them gifts, flowers and cards, everything would be O.K.

Or if you hold their hands in public, cuddle with them when they are in need and even help to ease stress whichever way possible, then everything would be O.K. But that is not the case.

Despite the major arguments and stupid little things we men do, I thought women would be able to stick it out in committed relationships.

Well, I guess not, so answer me this: what does a man have to do to prove his love to a woman?

You see, I know this guy who just got out of a great relationship of three years.

His girlfriend, I mean ex-girlfriend, decides she wants to break up with him because she thinks he has changed in the relationship.

Well, if this man is working one or two jobs while still attempting to finish school, trying to keep up with living costs, keeping his mind open for great opportunities for the future with his possible wife and on top of that, doing what he can to keep his girlfriend happy and attached, why did she break up with him?

It’s a question for all women who think there aren’t any good men in the world anymore.

Her reason for the break-up? “I need to find myself.”

This man has never cheated on or hit this girl, yet she still needs to find herself.

Let me remind you ladies, she has graduated from the University of North Carolina at Chapel Hill and lives on her own.

After what he believes to be three great years, she now needs time and space for herself.

Explain this, please!

This guy, a good friend of mine, loved this girl with all his heart, despite the stupid mistakes he made.

To this day, he still loves her and is praying that she will come back into his life.

It’s a question of curiosity.

I mean, the man did what he could for himself, his family, and on top of it all his supposed #1 sidekick.

This brings me to my point: some women don’t really understand what they are doing to a man when they leave a man who is deeply in love with her hanging. Yes, I did say a man who is in love. Men, thugs, whatever you want to call us, we do have feelings. They are feelings of concern about the future, success and respect. When it comes to men, we are simple, small soldiers of the world who put it all on the frontline when it comes to love. Some may not show it and some will. We are all different. You will not get everything you want in your ideal man, but we will give you something to work with if you can stay patient and humble. We want the best in the world just like you do. But we need lots of communication, cooperation and togetherness. That’s the only way things will work and that’s the only way you will really know how much we love you. All I am asking is for you beautiful women of the world to help us understand you.